Do you ever wish you were better at staying in touch with people? I asked my friend Michael, who I admire for his ability to keep connected to our friends, how he does this. Surprisingly, for him it wasn’t as much a skill he consciously thought about, but rather a habit—one that can easily be learned and trained as an automatic behavior.
Habit change starts with identifying the cue, but it can be tricky. Sometimes we’re quick to identify a cue, only to find out later that something different really drives our habit. Or, maybe it’s a perfect combination of factors that prompt us to react automatically. So how can we slow down and discover all those tricky habit triggers? Done right, this step will start your habit journey on the right footing.
Try these five changes to remove cues or create friction for your social media habit.
Researchers have found slip-ups aren’t as devastating to habit formation as we think. Keep reading to understand why slipping up isn’t the end of your habit journey, and find some advice to get back on track.
One trick to breaking a bad habit is to put up obstacles to force us to rethink our actions. That momentary interruption can break the cycle of automatic action and give us the opportunity to make different choices.
The most powerful tool I used when giving up alcohol was substitutes. I learned this trick from a friend. Instead of pouring a glass of wine, I’d pour pomegranate juice into my wine glass. The look and mouth feel gave me enough of the experience that it was easy for me to carry on reading the book and eventually work alcohol out of my winding-down reading ritual.
80% of Americans fail to fulfill their New Year’s resolutions. Keep reading to understand how habit science explains that high failure rate, and how spring is a better time to create new habit goals.
If you’re trying to give up alcohol, eat less meat, or get off social media, explaining these changes to people around you might be a source of anxiety. Let's think about how to deal with such situations and form a team to support your habit journey.
Advice on adopting new identities to nurture more healthy habits in your life.